Healthy Leaders Endure Hardship Well
When faced with negative emotions, tension, and stress…
How well do you remain relational? Do you remain curious about the other? Are you appreciative of who they are and your relationship with them? Are you kind with your words and tone? How about enveloping your crucial conversation with relational validation?
Do you stay true to who you are or do you shape-shift? Do you set aside how you really feel about the topic at hand or do your beliefs ebb-and-flow based on whom you’re talking with? Do you have joy and live as your true self or do you lose your joy and desire to disconnect?
Are you getting stuck in a “funk” that lasts for hours or even days? Is the negative feeling lingering and hi-jacking your connection with others? Are you validating your emotions and the emotions of others before you seek to comfort and solve the problem?
I am wrapping up this four part series with the fourth and final uncommon habit of effective and rare leaders with this statement:
Rare leaders ENDURE HARDSHIP well.
What does this mean?
It means that you are good at doing the first three. In the face of negative emotions (sadness, anger, disgust, shame, anxiety, and despair) you REMAIN RELATIONAL, ACT LIKE YOURSELF WITH JOY, & RETURN TO JOY QUICKLY often. And you do these even when others cannot. You take on the burden of enduring hardship well when others cannot.
TIPS/TWEAKS FOR THE WEEK:
#1: REMAIN RELATIONAL
This week, continue to practice remaining relational by keeping the person more important than the problem and eat your CAKE (Stay Curious, Appreciative, Kind, and Envelope your crucial conversation in relational validation),
#2: ACT LIKE YOURSELF
This week, keep your relational receptors activated allowing yourself to be filled with joy. Try the tapping method if you need to (see post: “Healthy Leaders Act Like their True Self with Joy”). Know that when you are your true self in a place of joy that you will be more relational and connected. Joy comes from the Lord, His joy that He gives is your strength, a healthy team is a high-joy team, and that joy is made complete in relationship with others (see blog: “Fellowship That Produces Joy”).
#3: RETURN TO JOY
This week continue pursuing and fighting to return to joy quickly by using VCR (Validate - Comfort - Rewire). Validate what you are feeling or what others are feeling, this de-escalates emotions and paves a pathway to be able to comfort yourself and others through solving the problem. This repeated process of awareness will rewire your brain for JOY!
#4: ENDURE HARDSHIP WELL
Stand in the gap for those in your life who are struggling on this journey of emotional maturity, self-awareness, and becoming a rare leader. Endure this hardship well for their sake. Be encouraged as this is a lifetime of intentional maturation. I’m with you and for you!
I’d love to hear how this series has made a difference for you. I’ve been pursuing rare leadership for over 5 years and believe in it. I highly suggest picking up the book Rare Leadership and giving it a read. It is my favorite book on healthy and effective leadership.
For more information on the brain science of being wired to live from a default mode of joy and more info on emotional maturity from a Jesus perspective, then also be sure to pick up The Life Model: Living from the Heart Jesus Gave You.
NOTE: Remain Relational, Act Like Yourself, Return to Joy, & Endure Hardship well are the four uncommon habits taught in the book Rare Leadership authored by Marcus Warner & Jim Wilder.
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Cheers to a Healthier Week!
